As I approach my 40th birthday, I can't help but wonder if people tend to stall out and stick to the time period of their prime. I was a child of the seventies and eighties and I remember the "hippies" that couldn't seem to change with the times. I realize now that they probably didn't want to change. I recently read a comment accusing (and I use that term lightly) someone of being stuck in the nineties. Are the nineties really a bad place to be? Once you get past the grunge phase, I think the mid to late nineties were fairly benign. There weren't any major fashion faux pas of the past like polyester bell bottoms, pegged pants or big bangs. Right?
I brought Emily to a classmate's birthday party yesterday afternoon. (Between the three girls, this was the 5th birthday party we've been to this school year.) The party was held at a gymnastics-type place where one of Allie's classmates had a party two years ago. Emily had a blast with her friends and I didn't have to helicopter. Complete sidetrack but one of her friends is the same exact size (height and weight) and they look so freaking cute together, especially running around holding hands.
When we arrived home, Allie and Anna were asking Emily questions about the party and I overhead Allie ask if Emily had heard a certain song. (They had music playing while the kids jumped around.) Allie was dancing around singing, "Even though I just met ya, here's the number." Okay, so I have no idea what song she was singing (and I suspect she doesn't have the lyrics exactly correct) and when I asked her how she knew it, she said that it had been playing at some party they'd had at school.
Back in my twenties, my prime, I thought that I would be a cool mom. I shopped at all the trendy stores. I knew every song on the radio and who sang it. The internet was a baby back then. I remember my first few years of working full time and no one had internet access at work. Talk about a difference in productivity levels! There were no iPhones or texting or Facebook or Instagram or Twitter. I still don't have a smart phone. I'm the person who had an analog cell phone until my service provider sent me notification that they would no longer be supporting my phone and I needed to upgrade or lose service.
If we listen to music in the car, it's usually kid music, my music, or Rich has the radio on some light rock station. I came home from work one day a few months ago to find the girls dancing to Vanessa Carlton. Apparently, they had decided to go through our CD collection, found those CDs and liked them. Smashing Pumpkins, not so much. If I turn the radio on, it's almost a guarantee that I won't know any of the songs. Unless they're playing a back to the nineties set.
As for trendy, I've never purchased anything from Anthropologie. I've never set foot in an Anthro store. I don't even know if I'm too old to be shopping there but it seems like everyone else is.
I know - age is just a number but I am most certainly no spring chicken. I've aged ten years in the past five. That's life and I'm okay with it. I have my beautiful baby girls so it was well worth it.
I was wasting time on YouTube last night (I can't seem to focus on one task these days) and I came across the Goo Goo Dolls Storytellers episode, which I haven't seen in at least eight years. I was there in the audience (talk about an amazing experience) and right around the five minute mark, I spotted a much younger version of myself and Jen, my brother's girlfriend at the time. Jen died a few years after that from a stupid, senseless mistake. Talk about time traveling for a few minutes.
Okay, so this post is going off on tangents I didn't think possible. Speaking of jumping into 2012 - I was asking my sister-in-law about reading books on an iPad because as much as it pains me to say this, it would be more convenient that lugging a book back and forth on the train. My netbook is almost three years old and still works perfectly fine but when it doesn't, it will most likely be replaced with an iPad. Talk about expensive. At least living in the year 2002 saves me some $.
I just re-read this and I'm laughing to myself thinking about Allie singing that song. I feel so old because my first thought, when she repeated the lyrics to me, was should a five year old really be singing 'even though I just met you, here's my number?'
Update before I hit publish - I just googled searched the lyrics and it appears that the song is Call Me Maybe by Carly Rae Jepson. When Allie asked Emily if they had played that song, Emily said that they had and after watching the video on YouTube right now, I can confirm that they did. Not only do I find it amazing that Em and Allie were able to communicate with each other the way they did (because Allie's version of the song is a bit off), I can't believe my babies aren't babies anymore.
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what was the mistake Jen made?
Katy Perry :)
She fell backwards from an escalator. She was a very sweet girl - it was a tragic, heartbreaking accident.
I always think about that-- how when I was younger I would make fun of women "stuck in the 80s" with their big hair and taste in music...but I definitely can feel myself becoming THAT type of woman but, with the 90s (being my high school years). It's still my favorite decade of music and clothes!
I'm 38 but I love the 80s :) I think it's because when I was at university I lived in a small town and the only bar there played 80s tunes forever.... Tainted Love, etc :)
I'm stuck in 2002. The year I met my husband. I was 25. I still feel 25. Then, I'll catch a glimpse of myself in a mirror and realize, whoa! I am most certainly not. I am not a trendy mom, either. Swore I would be. Definitely am not. :-) Hardly know any new music, either.
My girls (age 4) sing Call me Maybe ALL THE TIME. They love that song. And, of course, any song by Taylor Swift.
Ha I don't even really remember that song, but I'm not that great with lyrics. I thought maybe it was a meme. Cause I've seen that line all over for those. I have the same feelings about one day being the hip parent. Hopefully I can be hip for other reasons than my knowledge of musical lyrics...
my son also was singing this song one day...his lyrics were also a bit off but he is four and was singing "baby i'm gonna give you my number, yea, yea, yea"
The 80s were not good to me. I'll have to dig up some big hair pictures.
I'm sorry but I don't remember which blog I found you from and I'm not sure if I ever commented, but so sorry for the loss of Jen. I tend to be cautious and have balance issues/shunt like Anna (if her balance issues have been resolved, so sorry, not meaning to offend,) and I always make sure to hold onto the escalator with one hand. I'm nervous about getting on them at the airport when I have my cart too. This reminds me to be even more careful because I can so see something like this happening to me.
Thanks for sharing that with us Sarah. I love reading about your life and your girls. I am so sorry about Jen. Sounds like an awful freak accident.
Kareninaz - I don't like escalators very much either. Jen's accident could have been prevented. She was tall and attempted to lift herself up onto the moving railing and fell backwards over the railing. There have been 2 other deaths on the same escalator. Again - a terrible accident.
So...I am behind in the music times because today's music is crap...BUT I knew which song Allie was mentioning! (Score one for me!! Maybe?) It was deemed the song of the summer because it was number one for like 20 weeks or something ridiculous! It's a catchy song, but definitely not a 5 year old song...or an anyone song when put into reality! ;-)
xo,
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I could have told you that song :) I love music though! As for the ipad look into the Microsoft Surface. I am an all Apple person I have everything even my kids have the mini (or will get one) but the Surface seems to fit my needs better...worth checking out just as expensive but a lot better features than the ipad.
I just stumbled across your blog. I'm 28 now and still sometimes feel stuck in 2000 or 2004...or 2008... So your post spoke to me. But also made me realize that 10 yrs from now I might be saying this about 2012. And when I'm an old lady, I will be remembering my 40s. So what exactly is one's "prime", really? I guess as our lives begin to revolve around the little ones more and more, we lose touch with the "times". Times being, music and popular culture. But that hardly means you are stuck in the past. Reminding ourselves to be present in every moment can prevent us from one day waking up and wondering where we've been and where our years went. So enjoy your time with your girls! You sounded like a cool girl then, so you're definitely a cool mom now!
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