I work outside the home almost full time and my kids hate it. Monday through Thursday mornings usually greet me with questions, cries and the occasional grumpiness. (Sometimes I'm the one that's grumpy.) The girls see me scrambling to ready for work and someone asks, "Do you have work today?"
"WAHHHHHHHH! I don't want you to go to work."
"I know, baby, but you know the drill by now."
Allie has taken it a step further. She tells me how she wishes work wasn't alive. And her solution is for us to simply go to the bank and get money. Why do I have to go to work when I can just go to the bank? Banks have money. She also asks me to call in sick when I'm not sick. (And I swear we did not teach her this unacceptable method of skipping out on work.)
During my two days at home last week due to Anna's illness (and my not feeling very well, but mainly Anna), both Allie and Emily told me that they did not like that Anna was sick but they liked having me home. (I should note that I am allowed to use my sick days to care for family members or attend appointments.) Using sick days stresses me out because I feel like I need to keep some in reserve just in case. We are on a use it during the calendar year or lose it policy so accumulating extra sick or vacation days isn't possible.
So while I was at home those days, I received a sort of promotion at work.
I have been very lucky these past six months to work a reduced schedule and everyone is on board for that schedule to continue. They understand that I have three little ones at home but I obviously have concerns with balancing work and my family. There are times when my family needs to come first. It's not easy and it's not going to get any easier as the girls grow and as I grow.
Let's be honest - the majority of us work for a paycheck. If we didn't need a paycheck, we would be doing something else. It's very difficult for young kids to understand this. I don't ever want them to worry about our financial situation but they need to learn that houses, cars, food, clothes and shoes cost money. And the money to pay for those items comes from working. I don't ever want them to think that I am choosing work over them. Parenting is all about balance as well.
I'm super excited for school to start because I'll be taking the girls to their weekly gymnastics class. Balance, balance, balance.