Mommy, Esq. left an interesting question in the comments section of one of my posts a few months ago. After reading that Allie had said that she was looking for her little sister, Mommy, Esq. wanted to know if the girls were aware of their birth order. I have to start out by saying that the girls really don't understand big sister versus little sister. For example, Emily, who is the youngest of the trio, has referred to Anna has her little sister.
I was not aware until quite recently that there are parents of multiples who do not disclose birth order until their children are older. Like 18 years old! I had actually never heard of such a thing and never would have thought to do so. The thought is to allow the children to develop their own personality/identity without the label of "oldest" or "youngest."
Concealing birth order would have had to have started right after the girls were born. In order to easily identify them in the hospital, the nurses placed a piece of tape with "A" "B" or "C" on their tiny newborn hats. The girls' social security numbers are very close together and numbered in order.
When the girls were quite young, we felt that Allie, as the oldest of the trio, was the leader. She was the first to make advancements in terms of development, such as rolling over and back and crawling. She also weighed the most at birth. But then after the girls turned a year old, we noticed that Allie wasn't always the first to do everything. We thought that she would be the first to walk but Emily decided that she could run and run she did. Allie watched her sister receive praise and took more and more steps as a result until she was matching Emily.
Emily was also the first to take to potty training and Anna has proved fearless on more than one occasion. Last summer, Anna and Emily loved swimming and offered no hesitation with respect to going into a pool or the ocean. Allie had to be coaxed.
What I find to be a bit odd is that the girls originate from the same egg. They have the same DNA. We treat them as individuals but sometimes it is frightening to see how alike they really are. I remember when they were younger watching Em start to bounce in her carseat followed by Anna who could not see Em at all.
Allie can be our little drama queen. She loves sleep. She can be a bit bossy and usually wants whatever toys/books her sisters happen to be playing with.
Anna is very sensitive. Quite often when she says something that I find to be adorably funny and, as a result, laugh at, Anna will immediately start to pout as if I was laughing at her instead of with her.
Em is extremely playful. I am going to predict that she will be involved in some type of acting or singing when she is older. She loves singing and really gets into moving her head and body around. She is also Mommy's baby chick!