Whenever we would venture out into public with the girls when they were infants, inevitably a stranger would approach us to say, "Boy, it sure looks like you gotcha hands full." That was probably the number one comment followed by "Are those triplets?" Now that the girls are older, the frequency of comments has decreased and the 'hands full' remark has been transformed into something along the lines of "Just wait until they are teenagers."
It has come as a bit of a surprise to me the assumption that having three children the same age and the same gender is easy. But that assumption has been made and voiced to me. For some reason, this past month or so, I've taken to comparing having 5 year old triplet girls to having a baby, a 5 year old girl and a 7 year old boy. Which is easier?
While my 5 year old girl is participating in dance class or gymnastics, I need to entertain a baby and a 7 year old boy. And while my boy is playing soccer, I have two to entertain. And trips to the beach are definitely not as easy. During our recent outing, I observed two families who had gathered on the soft sand near us. They set up camp together and I immediately noticed that both couples had one young child each - maybe 15 months old.
The girls are borderline with independence at the beach. They still need someone to stand at the water's edge with them. They can't carry heavy buckets of water or build sandcastles. Borderline. But we are out of the eating sand, throwing sand into one's face, having to be closely watched near the water phase. It appeared that Rich and I were the ones with the easier parenting role that day even though we were outnumbered.
It's all relative though. Isn't it? I don't have a baby, a 5 year old girl, and a 7 year old boy so how can I judge who has it easier. Just as those who don't have triplets cannot possibly know what it's like. As for easy, well, we had three infants to care for at the same time. Three infants who took an hour each to feed and needed to be fed once every three hours. So, yes, a baby was always being fed unless there were two adults available to feed two babies at once. And forget about feeding schedules. These infants needed demand feeding because they were so small.
(I could go on and on with how difficult and trying the first two years were for us.)
So maybe some aspects of our lives are easier now but don't we deserve for something to be easier?