When the girls were 13 months old, I hesitantly opened a Blogger account. My nervousness revolved around the fact that I was not very internet or computer savvy. I felt a bit out of touch and behind in technological developments.
I wanted a blog because I thought it would be an easy and fun way to update our family and friends with pictures of the girls and details of our adventures. In other words, the whole emailing thing wasn't working out. In addition, I had always wanted to write and so this blog would satisfy my selfish need. (I have since learned that there is a reason why I am a tax professional and not an author.)
The whole concept of blogging was new to me (yes, I must have been living under a rock) and the only blogs on my reading list were those of other triplet moms. I found those blogs to be helpful and entertaining and so I left my blog open for others to read. In addition, I knew that family and friends weren't going to visit my little nook of the www if there was a password involved. (As it turns out, some still require updates and pictures via email!)
Slowly, my little blog has grown and I'm so happy to have detailed accounts of the girls' earlier days. I sometimes read through old posts and can't believe how much I have forgotten. So much so that I wish I had started a blog when I was pregnant with Abbey.
Here's my view of the internet - it's an abyss of knowledge. It's also a form of entertainment but the knowledge share aspect is amazing. It most likely would have taken me much longer to develop into the photographer I am today if it had not been for the internet. Planning our Disney trips would have been much more difficult without message boards and blogs. Who knows if I would have ever found the book Sewing Clothes Kids Love and the pattern I used for the girls' Christmas dresses.
I know, I know. We survived the 70s and 80s without the internet.
I've met so many great and interesting women, moms and dads through blogging.
Unfortunately, the internet is full of rude people who feel that it is okay to hide behind a computer, make assumptions, judge others and hurt feelings. I can't even count the number of times I have seen rude commenters justify their actions by saying, "If you don't want to be judged, don't put your life out on the internet." Really? Where did that rule come from because I'm the one with the power to delete your rude ass comments. My blog, my rules. Should we all cower in our homes?
I try to make it a rule to only comment on the internet as I would in real life. For example, our neighbor's recycling bin was blown over a few weeks ago and our yard was littered with the packaging of many, many frozen dinners for kids. They have a four year old. Can you imagine if that mom posted to a message board or a blog that she feeds her kid frozen meals?
This doesn't mean that I agree with everything that everyone says. I'm guilty of rolling my eyes while reading certain blogs but I keep it to myself and move on. If I feel that someone is making misstatements with respect to spina bifida, stillbirth or a triplet pregnancy, I'll come out and say it just as I would if that person made those misstatements in real life.
Quite honestly, I've thought about closing shop many times. Most recently, a few weeks ago and again yesterday. I blog almost daily because I like the routine. I do need to be better about telling myself that it's okay to skip a day or two. Whenever I hit a low point, I always think about the wonderful comments and emails I've received or the women I've connected with who also have angel babies or children with spina bifida. That's what makes it worth it.
Okay, I don't want to start (or continue) babbling or sound like I am whining so I'll end this. I do want to add that Grammy was PISSED at those rude comments. She tried to leave a comment herself but couldn't log onto her account so I'll leave her comment here:
"Doesn't anyone think a grandmother can watch her grandkids because she WANTS to! Because she loves them so much, she doesn't want strangers watching them. Who would be the best person to watch little Anna -keeping an eye on her shunt/behavior."