While looking for a new job after the girls were born, a friend of mine (a guy) and former co-worker made a comment that has stuck with me to this day. As a last resort to bring home a paycheck, I was contemplating a return to public accounting. My friend was still working at the firm I had left in 2001 and was a great resource for me.
In an attempt to avoid some of the crazy overtime hours, the firm was willing to offer me a reduced schedule. I should note that working a reduced schedule meant that I would be working approximately 40 hours a week. Yes, that is reduced.
So as all of this was going on, my friend said to me, "A common complaint around here from working moms is that they have trouble balancing work and home life." He provided me contact information of some working moms there who said that they would be willing to speak with me.
It all ended up being a non-issue as I was unable to accept the job offer due to a conflict of interest (aka an investment.) Months and months passed and I was finally offered a job with a private company. Now that I have been working full time for almost three years, I can tell you that finding that balance is difficult no matter where you work.
Is it possible for a woman to find success as a full time employee and a full time mother? Are you really a full time mother if you are a full time employee? You are still a full time employee no matter what. How does a mother find harmonious balance?
This is my current struggle. Well, it has always been a bit of a struggle but now it really seems to be rearing its ugly head. I feel pulled in four different directions at once and it is draining. It is stressful. It sucks.
*List of trivial things:
- Kids rolling around on the bathroom floor while I shower for work.
- Kids fighting on my bed while I try to get dressed and dry my hair. For work.
- Having to go up and down the stairs 5 times in 15 minutes at bedtime.
- Sewing three birthday skirts only to find that they are really too big and need adjusting. And I'm almost out of matching thread.
- Discovering that my idea for birthday shirts isn't going to work.
(This isn't about finding a new job. I don't want a new job. And in my field of work and at my level, you can't work two days a week.)