Thursday, October 15, 2009


I would be remiss if I did not mention that today is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. The thing is - I don't need a day to remember Abbey. We remember her every day. I would like to think that this day is to remind the world that babies do die. Healthy babies too. For no reason.

As time passes, I become more and more frustrated at society. When was the last time you heard of a celebrity delivering a stillborn baby? Are there different levels of healthcare based upon who you are? If I had had an ultrasound that last week, Abbey would be here now. I'm sure of it.

I know that if I want something to change, I need to personally push for change. I should be out there campaigning for change but I can only fight one battle at a time. Someday.

I wish I could compose a better post in honor of Abbey but for various reasons, I cannot. Not tonight. Not with EVERYTHING that is going on. Someday she will be honored in a HUGE way. I am sure of that.


Hope's Mama said...

It seems to only be US who know about this day. The day to remember our babies does not get the attention some of those bigger charities and causes seem to get. I wish we could get the same sort of attention for Hope and Abbey and all the missing babies.
I'm with you on wanting to make change. Some day, lets try and take on the world.
Both our firstborn daughters should be here. I know both could have been saved.
With much love to you. Remembering Abbey always.

His Mom said...

I have often wondered about the celebrity factor too. With as many of them and as many babies seem to be born...statistics should have prevailed. Not that I want a baby to die, but celebrities bring awareness to issues.

Thinking about you and Abbey.

Jen said...

Reading that you feel she'd have been okay with one more ultrasound is heart-wrenching. And of course with celebrities buying ultrasound machines for their homes and probably paying out of pocket for more frequent office visits, yes, one *can* buy happiness.

I am thinking of you and of her.

Anonymous said...

Abbey is honored in a huge way - by you and your husband and your girls and the rest of your family, the people who matter to her most in my opinion.
Although my situation is different from yours (I lost twins at 20 weeks PG), it is so awful that we all have to share in this pain and loss and know that those feelings of guilt will remain with us forever. Thinking of you.