Anna can be a stickler with certain things but man, can this kid roll with the punches. After her surgery, she insisted on attending CCD class that night. What kid doesn't try to get out of CCD? Rich co-teaches their class so I figured if she wasn't going to make it through, he could just call me to come pick her up. When they arrived back home after class, I asked her how it went. "Dad caught me falling asleep."
Thank you for the words of encouragement and shared different perspectives regarding work/life balance. The day after I published that post, I randomly came across an article discussing this very topic and how it is currently so widespread. Never before has the percentage of families with both parents working full time been this high. Interestingly enough, (according to that article) work/life balance causes the most stress amongst those with college degrees. It was speculated that those employees are usually salaried and expected to work outside of the 9 to 5 workday.
There is some comfort in knowing that I'm not alone with these frustrations. Rich is in the same boat with me as well. Although, I think the guilt factor hits me harder. Rich has chaperoned field trips, been guest reader on multiple occasions (and will be one again very soon!) and attended school meetings without me during my busy seasons. Last week, he had already registered and paid for a seminar which left him unavailable for school stuff.
As for the girls being in the same classroom, they would absolutely hate that. They understand that by being in three different rooms, Mom and Dad can't do everything. We are actually in a good place right now as their three teachers are teamed up and do a lot together, including that field trip last week. If Anna had said that she didn't think she'd be able to handle the walk, I was going to request that Anna and a friend or two join Allie's class and not just Anna. Anna actually didn't really care that we couldn't accompany her.
Rich and I do have a Life Plan in place. (It's not really something I can currently detail out in a public forum though.) Not to say that I drifted aimlessly but after I had the girls, my views on life and work began to slowly shift. I was also in my mid-thirties. When I was younger, it was easy to assume I would 1. work as employee and then 2. retire at retirement age. When I was completely stressed out a few years ago because of a crazy, control freak (evil) boss, Rich and I began to think about alternatives. (Seriously, work became like a game of Survivor. Outwit, outplay, outlast. And I won!)
Considerations to a Life Plan:
- Insurance (health, dental and life)
From someone who's been working for 20 years, there's one piece of unsolicited advice I'll give to all of you new to or just entering the workforce: max out your 401(k) contributions!
So one good thing has come from this time change. The sun has been setting at 4:30 and with the expansive view of the city from my workspace, there have been some gorgeous sunsets. I was thinking of way to set up my camera in one of the windows on a makeshift tripod (aka storage boxes.) The lens would have to be pressed up against the glass to avoid the glare from the office lights so that eliminates my wide angle with the bubbled lens. I wish it wasn't such a hassle to bring my camera with me to work or I would carry it with me everyday.