I haven't been talking much about Abbey here because sometimes I feel like I am repeating myself over and over again. I will tell you this - it's a messed up way to live. You go on vacation and you wonder if she would have liked princesses. You wonder what school drop off and pick up would be like with a first grader and three kindergarteners. You wonder if she would have liked gymnastics or soccer or dance or swimming or something completely different.
Last week, Allie was holding a book with an illustration of four girls on the front. She pointed to the girls on that book cover and said, "This one is Anna. This one is Emily. This one is me. And this one is Abbey."
And then she asked, "Did God do something special for you after Abbey died by giving you three babies?"
They don't really understand God. (I don't really understand God.) We had a conversation months ago about how they were born after their sister and I can't even begin to understand how Allie could have processed everything to come up that question.
The girls are most definitely a gift but sometimes that's difficult to accept, especially knowing that there are so many families out there waiting for their something special.
- Approximately 1 of every 100 to 150 babies is stillborn. That's 26,000 babies in the U.S. alone each year.
- A cause of death cannot be determined in approximately 1/3 of stillbirths.
- Pregnancy loss does not discriminate. It can happen to anyone.