tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7707332630639933436.post447290853310402528..comments2024-02-21T07:58:44.752-05:00Comments on The Great Umbrella Heist: How to be a bad everythingSarahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09856102708963900512noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7707332630639933436.post-52107225252379292352014-07-04T07:21:03.953-04:002014-07-04T07:21:03.953-04:00Sarah, I find myself needing to confess to being a...Sarah, I find myself needing to confess to being a bad blog reader, having just completed binge-reading several of your last posts. Thank you so very much for always keeping it real. Your writing style, raw and honest, always appeals to me. Again, thank you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15994706775245387421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7707332630639933436.post-74508770774392764582014-06-26T23:01:03.877-04:002014-06-26T23:01:03.877-04:00I feel your pain. I'm sure you are not a bad ...I feel your pain. I'm sure you are not a bad mom or worker, but I agree that there is not enough hours in the day to do them both the way you want too!<br />We had the same worl/ life advice at work. Hogwash. Both are always demanding100%, so what do you do with that?Angienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7707332630639933436.post-75992907435179220852014-06-26T06:19:01.682-04:002014-06-26T06:19:01.682-04:00I hear you, and it doesn't get easier, kids ge...I hear you, and it doesn't get easier, kids get older and still need you (((hugs))) working really gets in the way of life!thehummingcathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06992227222076111330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7707332630639933436.post-32679963911723255972014-06-25T18:32:01.615-04:002014-06-25T18:32:01.615-04:00Long time lurker, first time poster - You seem to ...Long time lurker, first time poster - You seem to be doing an excellent job with your girls. And while life-work balance is a constant struggle, hopefully things will calm down a little once this specific project winds down. Hang in there!<br /><br />And on a completely unrelated note: You should sign up for this NKOTB contest, as one of their biggest fans!<br /><br />http://whateverblog.dallasnews.com/2014/06/new-kids-on-the-block-want-you-to-ride-on-their-party-plane.html/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7707332630639933436.post-81314448323264166202014-06-25T16:13:50.265-04:002014-06-25T16:13:50.265-04:00My heart broke for you reading that :( Whether th...My heart broke for you reading that :( Whether these things are true or not (they're not), a child's perceived reality is heartbreaking. Just know that they don't mean that deep down and you KNOW you're a great, present mother who is creating amazing memories. A few weeks of less than great does NOT make you a bad mother.AllisonBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09176725609450300484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7707332630639933436.post-47014232529530910472014-06-25T06:51:33.887-04:002014-06-25T06:51:33.887-04:00I love your honesty. I don't know many people ...I love your honesty. I don't know many people who put it out there that they think they're being a bad mum. But I know a lot of us think it from time to time. I know I do. I don't even pretend to understand how you manage working with looking after 3 kiddos plus all the extra curricular sewing/dance mum etc. stuff you manage to accomplish in between. You are truly an inspiration, and there will always be hard days/weeks/months (let's hope not years)! When your girls are all grown up they will know why you had to work so hard and hopefully they will appreciate it. Not that it makes it any easier at this moment. I hope your project ends soon so you can spend some quality time with your girls.My Froleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15484466182674852087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7707332630639933436.post-15881625434378309762014-06-24T23:15:49.117-04:002014-06-24T23:15:49.117-04:00I feel like Ali, Anna and Emily are going to remem...I feel like Ali, Anna and Emily are going to remember the beach trips, Disney adventures, birthday parties, reading before bed/snuggles and all of the other special things you do with them a lot more than they remember being annoyed about you working.Katienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7707332630639933436.post-34920769113707774792014-06-24T14:48:00.720-04:002014-06-24T14:48:00.720-04:00As I study for this stupid cpa exam I tell myself ...As I study for this stupid cpa exam I tell myself it's going to afford me a better job which is going to be great for my future kids, sometimes when I read your blog I want to just stop and forget it. I'm so sorry you're feeling bad at everything...<br /><br />Also I'm reading Curtis Sittenfeld's American Wife, Sisterland is on my list. Ashleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13334654567281096614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7707332630639933436.post-46050460390066926932014-06-23T17:34:00.040-04:002014-06-23T17:34:00.040-04:00Hi Sarah, I have followed your blog for some time ...Hi Sarah, I have followed your blog for some time now and I felt like I should comment tonight. I am in the same situation as you, I have three children (not triplets I might add!) and I also work full time. They are 6 and under. I am so torn between work and family life...but if my job doesn't get done, nobody does it. If I go on holiday, my work builds until I get back. It's hard. I tried part time, but I ended up having to work on my days off. It was less stressful to work full time. I, most days, feel like you do, bad mother...and all of the others. I'll often cry and say to my husband that i am such a bad mum! It's usually after I have snapped because I am so stressed and tired from one thing and another. Of course, I am not, and you are not either! We are working to give them a better life, to afford that Disney holiday, to pay the bills off sooner so that they can have a better future, to buy them nice things, to pay for ballet class. Our lives are so similar, it's quite funny! They are so young and will not understand the sacrifices we have had to make, we did not take the easy option, but they will understand one day Sarah! I really hope work gets easier for you. I personally think you are doing an amazing job juggling everything, and those girls, well, they are a real credit to you. :)Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11840730429189922567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7707332630639933436.post-28466648997275453752014-06-23T16:30:43.479-04:002014-06-23T16:30:43.479-04:00Oh Em </3 That had to just wreck you. I'm s...Oh Em </3 That had to just wreck you. I'm sorry. You're not a bad *anything*. Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11784902638721774823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7707332630639933436.post-2745249944716383452014-06-23T16:02:05.590-04:002014-06-23T16:02:05.590-04:00It is so hard to have that work/life balance, and ...It is so hard to have that work/life balance, and in a perfect world, no one would ever have to make those hard choices!<br /><br />But you and I live in the real world and it is definitely NOT perfect! I left my old Accounting firm 8 years ago to start my own from home, and though I am in control of what I work on, I am not always in control of WHEN I have to work. The IRS or the State often dictate my deadlines and there is just no way around it!<br /><br />And sometimes, my kids don't understand, or I have to miss one of their dance shows, it is just the way it is. Like others have said, don't beat yourself up about it! Remember, your daughters will most likely have to make the same choices when they grow up and have a family, and you are showing them how to do it gracefully!maureenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08445627869939756060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7707332630639933436.post-85991636231853203632014-06-23T14:22:06.283-04:002014-06-23T14:22:06.283-04:00Sarah-
The fact that your family and your girls h...Sarah-<br /><br />The fact that your family and your girls have made it this far proves you're an excellent mama! We ladies are WAAAAY to hard on ourselves. You are so lucky to have a supportive husband and Grammy. I'm sure that someday, when the girls are grown and have jobs of their own, they will understand. They will be grateful for the life that you have provided for them by having your job. Being a grownup is HARD, it's a fact. Keep your head high.Sagenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7707332630639933436.post-48321157558389928972014-06-23T14:16:10.426-04:002014-06-23T14:16:10.426-04:00I know the feeling, and that is working from home ...I know the feeling, and that is working from home 80-90% of the time. I feel like a bad mom while at the same time I see how much more (and more consistently) my colleagues with no kids invest and grow in their careers. We really need to understand and find a way through the fact that kids and home ARE a career that demands your full to almost full-time attention.<br /><br />Today, I am becoming more and more an adept of the idea that we should have kids as early as reasonably possible, so we can go to school and pump up a career starting in our 30's and 40's. We will most likely be totally functional up to our 70's and live up to our 80's. PLENTY of time to work and make money and be "independent".Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07169540739235087261noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7707332630639933436.post-3464687591589520982014-06-23T13:05:08.029-04:002014-06-23T13:05:08.029-04:00Longtime reader and admirer of your girls here.......Longtime reader and admirer of your girls here....Working on a Saturday doesn't make you a bad mother, it makes you a responsible one who is working hard to put food on the table and provide for the dance classes, trips to Disney and everything in between. Sometimes work sucks and takes up extra time and sometimes it doesn't. Your girls are lucky that they have family to take care of them and love them. They'll understand when they're older, I'm sure. For now, you can at least know that they want you around because they love you--which is also a very positive thing. :)Lisa MHnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7707332630639933436.post-28760210567311773062014-06-23T12:23:43.927-04:002014-06-23T12:23:43.927-04:00What you said at the end about feeling like having...What you said at the end about feeling like having been a bad everything made me so sad for you, that you feel that way. I don't have any helpful words to offer other than that I understand, and I'm sorry. *hug*agirlandherhorseshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00154200020468421602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7707332630639933436.post-84790190479251683482014-06-23T12:17:43.072-04:002014-06-23T12:17:43.072-04:00If it makes you feel any better, I can totally und...If it makes you feel any better, I can totally understand!! Hope your work projects die down soon and you can enjoy some time with your kiddos! Disney can't be too far away either, right?Whitneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00661973679165271757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7707332630639933436.post-32764364130679854582014-06-23T10:06:07.305-04:002014-06-23T10:06:07.305-04:00You are an amazing mother! I have never met you, b...You are an amazing mother! I have never met you, but I can tell through your posts that you are. Your girls obviously adore you and look up to you. They will appreciate you and your job so much when they are older and are able to attend college and do the things they love. Keep your head up, you're doing a great job at both of your jobs! I love your posts. Farahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11400441860748044457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7707332630639933436.post-90157874667590707572014-06-23T07:48:16.957-04:002014-06-23T07:48:16.957-04:00Just from reading your blog and seeing the picture...Just from reading your blog and seeing the pictures you take, I can see how many beautiful, special moments you share with your girls. And that is what they will remember when they are older…not the times when you had to work. My dad worked a lot when I was little and then passed away unexpectedly when I was 15…and I remember nothing but happy times with him. That may not be very helpful in the moment when you have 3 girls crying though.Teejhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09417148107100835566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7707332630639933436.post-75290226401929269962014-06-23T06:27:19.420-04:002014-06-23T06:27:19.420-04:00Us moms are way too hard on ourselves! Give yourse...Us moms are way too hard on ourselves! Give yourself a break. You are a good momma..... and your girls are so lucky to have you. Reward yourself for all your hard work! Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12831892800174378616noreply@blogger.com